We Are Okay by Nina LaCour | Book Review + Tour

We Are Okay by Nina LaCour is the sort of book that gets under your skin and sticks with it. It seeps into your heart and as you read it, you find yourself really feeling what main character Marin feels. I found LaCour’s latest book to be a quiet read about loneliness, grief, and being an island unto one’s self. Then, finally, healing. I do not know if you can tell or not, but I just really loved the slim little book that was We Are Okay.

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Marin has fled from her life long home in San Francisco, California for college in Dutchess County, NY. As a person from NY, but not Dutchess county, I am going to guess her college is Vassar as Marin doesn’t seem the sort to go to a school like Marist. So, anyways, Marin is at college, her roommate is leaving for the winter break.

It is just Marin at the school by herself. Everyone else has left, even the international students. The only person still on the campus is the groundskeeper. Marin will not be alone for too long though, her friend Mabel comes for a visit. There we see that Mabel and Marin have a complicated history as friends and lovers. We also slowly learn why the death of Marin’s grandfather, her last known living relative, has caused Marin to unravel at bit.

Marin has quite the emotional journey. I know, I know that sounds super cliche. Hear me out though. In the beginning of the book she has this cork bulletin board. There’s literally nothing on her board. Compare this to her roommate who has a board that is covered in photos and inside jokes. Marin’s grief is just so deep that she can’t penetrate it to put things up on the board. To see her finally put something on that board is major. Actually, come to think of it, We Are Okay is a very introspective novel and either you’re going to be on board with Marin and the healing she must do or you’re going to be bored because you came for octane and got something else. Also, note that Marin is a lesbian.

Mabel is really the other major character in Nina LaCour’s We Are Okay. As mentioned, Mabel and Marin went from friends to lovers. However, Mabel is not visiting Marin as a lover would. Instead, she’s there to find out why Marin never responded to her text messages and closed herself off from the people who love her and wanted to help her. She wanted to know why Mabel ran away to New York to college early and stayed in a dingy hotel, instead of with people who care about her. Mabel is there to convince Marin to come home to California for Christmas and to stay with Mabel’s family. I can’t fault Mabel for trying with Marin, nor for her kindness. Also, if you want to read a book with a major character who is bisexual and that is not erased – well, here you go.

I think that Nina LaCour really nails the complexities of grief quite well in We Are Okay. There’s stages, yes, and they are presented here. Grief is hard and it is not just something that you can wake up and force yourself to be over. It hits you again and again in waves. I think if you’ve experienced any kind of loss, you’ll find yourself able to relate to this book. If not, you might find it a bit boring and maybe even stifling. However, there’s a core audience for this book and I can see that it brings so much value to the table. There’s a lot I am leaving out in my review, but know, I just want you to experience this book in the way that I did — without knowing too much going in.

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Blog Tour Schedule:

Week One:
2/13 – ButterMyBooks – Review
2/14 – Here’s to Happy Endings – Interview
2/15 – The Paige-Turner – Review + Favorite Quotes
2/16 – Read Sleep Fangirl – Playlist + Photoshoot
2/17 – Tales of the Ravenous Reader – Interview
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2/20 – Lost in Lit – Review + Book Look
2/21 – YA Wednesdays – Like/Try/Why
2/22 – Pop! Goes the Reader – Guest Post
2/23 – Good Books & Wine – Review + Favorite Quotes
2/24 – Bookworm Everlasting – Review

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  1. What a beautiful review. I’ve seen nothing but praise for this book. It does sound like the kind of novel that’s going to break me, but in a good way.

  2. I love a book that makes you feel. I’m looking forward to this one!

  3. danielle hammelef says

    I love your review–you definitley can tell you loved this book. This is exactly my favorite contemporary fiction I love to read myself and I’m looking forward to the journey from grief to healing.

  4. I don’t read enough contemporaries, but when I do, they blow me away, and this one sounds like no exception. Plus that cover is revealing of the plot and I love it!

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