Note: There are cuss words here. I swear like a sailor.
So, the other day I was teaching a class on relationship violence for at-risk young adults. We were discussing scenarios and came across one scenario where a girl wore a short skirt despite her boyfriend asking her not to. I will never ever forget what one student said in response to this scenario: ‘Did she pay for her own clothes? Did she spend her own money on those clothes? Then she can wear whatever the fuck she wants.” I love that. And yes, those students do curse when I give my presentations — I pick and choose my battles. But that answer kind of struck a chord with me, because of course it made me think about blogging.
Honest to god, why do people give a shit about what other bloggers are doing? Why do people care SO MUCH that someone posts an early review? Why do people care SO MUCH that someone posts a book haul? Why do people care SO MUCH if reviews are critical enough or not? Like seriously, there is an X in the corner of most tab browsers, if you don’t like what you see, don’t let the X hit you in the ass on your way out. I am sorry for all my swears but I am heated up. One of those things that really gets on my nerves is when the ‘book blogging police’ start prattling on and on about how bloggers SHOULD BE doing things one way or they SHOULD BE doing things the other way. Or OMG OMG SOMEONE IS WRONG ON THE INTERNET.
Really guys? Really. I just don’t get it. WHY DOES IT MATTER SO MUCH WHAT OTHER PEOPLE ARE DOING. And yes, I am angry enough to yell and capslock.
Straight up, I pay my hosting fees. I pay my domain name fees. I pay my own postage. I pay list price for those signed books that I give away. I spend my own free time reading books sent for review when I could take up a second job and make more cash money. I spend my own free time writing reviews. It kind of really chaps my ass when people start proclaiming that EVERYONE SHOULD NOT DO THING X BECAUSE IT IS EVIL TERRIBLE AND BAD. I am of the mind that if you own your blog, whether you spend a lot of money on it or not, you should do whatever the fuck you want.*Obviously don’t plagiarize, that’s not my point. Moving on.
I guess I am really just posting this because it kind of sucks when people take it on themselves to point fingers at other people for not doing things their own way. The way I see it is that I will be goddamned if someone makes me feel inferior for not conforming to their own personal standards. That’s sort of the way those posts come across sometimes – as totally condescending. And I get it, I get that people love dispensing advice from on high. Like, good for you bro that you are a blogging expert. I am proud of your doctorate in book blogging and for making sure people stick to the book blogging rules and regulations. Note, I am not talking about blogging tips – those are awesome. I love learning new things like why Livefyre is cool or why you should check out hootsuite or why captcha might discourage comments.
I guess I am getting super convoluted about my point. My whole point for those who are all TL;DR is this: on your book blog do whatever you want. Post early reviews. Post GIF filled reviews. Post long reviews. Post short reviews. Post memes. Post contests. Post discussions. Post rants. And hell, even post rants about what other bloggers do that piss you off. I don’t care. I just think that we should all feel good about what we post and how we promote reading and literacy instead of feeling like we are WRONG OMG OMG for breaking some secret blogging rule.
Sorry guys, I just had to get that off my chest. By all means rant on about the behavior of others, just on your own personal blogs, do whatever makes you happy — even if it’s the subject of someone else’s rant.